There are a small group of people that you are bonded to, for one reason or another, for life. This you absolutely know and feel in your soul. No matter how bad it gets, you will always be together – no matter what.
“No matter what” are three words that speak volumes. Those three words encompass everything. Really – everything. There will be times the people in this group let you down, betray you, horrify you, hurt you, and pull the very rug out from under you. You cannot have a “no matter what” relationship without these things happening, or there would be no need for those three words. You may even be estranged for a time, while God heals, but the feeling of “no matter what” is still at the bottom of it all – like a safety net holding your friendship.
I’ve always heard it said, “Life is too short. Make amends now and don’t waste anymore time.”. That’s a nice thought, and sometimes true, but there are times when God needs time and room to work. The people closest to us are the people we rub edges with most often. After a time, the sharp edges that used to fit us together like a puzzle, become dull, broken, and pitted. We no longer mesh tightly. When we no longer fit, God will step in and separate us. We will think, pray, and mediate our way through pain, tears, and sadness, becoming sharper in our vision. When the time is right He will put us back together, with new edges, fitting perfectly, making an entirely different picture than the worn out, ill-fitting one.
My husband is one of the “no matter whaters” in my life. Over the course of 35 years we have come through many “sharpenings”. Our friendship, though tested, was always different, better, and stronger after the pain and tears, and we were both better people because of it.
To some, “life is short” and immediate action makes sense. To me, life is real and the growth and lessons that make us better people cannot be hurried. That, in itself, was a tough lesson for me to learn.
And so, as another day goes by, I give gratitude for all the “no matter whaters” in my life, and…I have written.
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This reminds me of some of the philosophy in The Little Prince.