There are times when we have troubles with people we love. It could be a child, teen, young adult, parent, friend, sibling, etc. What we all need to understand is that sometimes people need to spin about in their own hurricane for awhile. While this hurts and saddens us, it is necessary for their own personal growth – and for ours. While estranged from a loved one, we become, through our pain, more aware of ourselves and how we “operate”. The time away is better spent looking at ourselves and how we can grow from this, instead of focusing on sadness and anger.
I came across something a father wrote after his fourteen year old son stomped out of the house after an argument. It was such a beautiful statement, I had to share it with you:
He said to himself, “Maybe the best way I can love him is to find an island and sit quietly until his hurricane passes.”
I thought to myself, what a tender and beautiful example of turning anger into love, instead of turning it into heartache. While your loved one is sitting in their hurricane, figuring life out, forgive them, forgive yourself, and then give them the space and time they need to forgive you.
It is, perhaps, the best way to love them.
And so, as another day goes by, lessons of how to love someone come in many different packages, and…I have written.
It can be helpful to bring some fast carbohydrates with you on the ride, such as granola bars, bananas, energy drinks,etc.
I love that quote; thanks for sharing.
“Spin around in their own hurricane for a while…” Those words made me stop in my tracks. What a great way to maintain boundaries AND be calm. As always, you’re words are inspiring. Thanks!