Not long ago I wrote a blog about the two sides of forgiveness. Since then, a good friend pointed out that there is a third side to forgiveness, so I spent some time thinking about her words. Today I came across this:
“Time and health are two precious assets that we don’t recognize and appreciate until they have been depleted.”~ Denis Waitly
And therein, I found that the third part of forgiveness is absolutely essential to health. The third side of forgiveness is being able to forgive oneself.
Within the past two weeks, I thought about this. If you are truly sorry for your transgressions, and have expressed real remorse, but the other person will not accept it, you need to remove the yoke from your own shoulders and place it on theirs. Don’t get me wrong, this is not instantaneous nor is it easy. If you are truly sorry for your actions, you are not looking for a “get out of jail free card” or looking to make excuses for your actions. If you are truly sorry, you will spend a lot of time beating yourself up over what you did, whether your apology is accepted or not. Over a period of time, you will begin to see the toll it is taking on your own health – both physical and emotional. There they are – time and health – your most important assets, as stated in the quote above.
The peace that comes from forgiving yourself, now emanates positive energy into the universe, instead of the negative energy put forth in beating oneself up.
If you are truly sorry, if you have learned from your mistakes, then quiet your soul. Pray the anger still emanating from the other person will dissipate into peace. You have made your apologies in sincerity, now leave it up to God to do the rest.
And so, as another day goes by, the yoke has been lifted, inner peace reigns, and ….I have written.
If you are truly sorry, you will spend a lot of time beating yourself up over what you did, whether your apology is accepted or not. Over a period of time, you will begin to see the toll it is taking on your own health – both physical and emotional. There they are – time and health – your most important assets, as stated in the quote above.
Agree completely! I loved the part you wrote
“The peace that comes from forgiving yourself, now emanates positive energy into the universe, instead of the negative energy put forth in beating oneself up.”
It is amazing how much others around you can feel negative energy when one beats oneself up all the time. Yoga has helped me with this…never perfect but better. 🙂
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